Gold with Jeanette Schneider Episode 36: A Pretty + Pink Legacy with Dr. Ruthie Arumala

Everyone in Ruthie Arumala’s life knew she was going to be a doctor. Except Ruthie. She had a ton of big ideas about fashion, interior design and being a physician to the stars, until her brother’s untimely death and a trip to Botswana where she got first hand experience with women’s global health. After understanding how cervical cancer changed a woman’s life, body and personal identity, she knew she found her calling. Ruthie details her grief after her brother’s death and how empathy has changed her as a person and a physician. 

We talk about a women’s relationship with her doctor, what women still don’t know about their bodies and her awareness that we manage sex through fear in most cultures. She also discusses sexual assault from the perspective of a physician and a woman’s rights advocate.

Dr. Ruthie O. Arumala, is a Georgetown University trained Ob/Gyn with a passion to discuss health in way that is accessible to every woman. The sole OBGYN at Texas Hugley Medical Associates in Mansfield, Texas, she takes care of a range of OBGYN concerns but specializes in care for PCOS, fibroids and infertility. Dr. Ruthie is also the host of the Pretty + Pink Podcast in order to empower women to make better decisions when it comes to their personal health and wellbeing.

Dr. Arumala also digs into the importance of modeling behavior and how her mother became her mentor.  There is no “do as I say, not as I do.” She talks about choosing your mentors, curating your own social media experiences, and why it is important to “shoot your shot,” when asking someone to mentor you. 

I love Dr. Arumala’s encouragement to “move, girl” and that – nothing is that serious. 

Connect with Dr. Arumala

Instagram: @i.am.dr.arumala

Pretty + Pink on Apple, Spotify and Soundcloud

As always, please subscribe to this podcast, leave a review and don’t forget to share with your friends. I’m always interested in content that uplifts, so if you have things you’d like to hear about, please share them with me in the comments. You can also find me on Instagram @ms.jeanetteschneider or Twitter @msjwrites.

If you want some help moving toward that intentional life, join me every week on my intention journey. I’m inviting you. Totally free. From my heart to your inbox. Sign up for my #girltribe at jeanetteschneider.com and before you even wake up on Monday mornings there will be a huge dose of motivation waiting for you. Yes, I will wake you up on Monday morning with intention setting prompts and give you some tips as to what is setting my soul on fire. On Fridays I’m going to remind you to let go, recharge, and love yourself up with some self care prompts to get present in your down time. Intentional living is where it’s at, y’all!

Until next time – in the words of my grandma, “Love each other every day.”

In your ears, filling your heart.

Xo,

Gold with Jeanette Schneider Episode 2: Trust Your Hustle with Chelli Wolford

Today I am joined by entrepreneur Chelli Wolford, owner of Bloom, a co-working space for women.

Aside from running a gorgeous space for risk-taking women to launch their businesses, Chelli also shared a letter to her younger self in my book, LORE. It is the one most asked about during my speaking engagements and we’ll tell you why. Chelli is pure heart and soul, a women’s advocate and the sister of recording artist Pitbull. 

In our time we talk about actualizing our side hustle by making leaps from uncomfortable jobs to the unpredictable life of an entrepreneur. We get deep in our feelings with advice to do the hard work and avoid the unintentional life. 

This is a grown up conversation and covers topics surrounding sexual violence and loss so fair warning for those who may be triggered.

Please subscribe to Gold, love this episode up, share it with your friends, and leave a review. It would mean the absolute world to me, and the lovely guests sharing their gold every week. You can also find me at www.jeanetteschneider.com, on IG @ms.jeanetteschneider and on Twitter @msjwrites. I’m always on the hunt for content that uplifts, so if you have ideas or want to hear about a specific subject, leave your thoughts in the comments.

If you want to get deep in the work with me, pick up my book LORE: Harnessing Your Past to Create Your Future on Amazon or Barnes & Noble.

In your ears, filling your heart.

Xo,

J

Meghan Markle v #meangirls

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I didn’t mean to watch the Royal Wedding. I was in a hotel room in Florida and woke up before my alarm clock. I laid there, wishing myself back to sleep, but Instagram called. I followed the arrival of the guests and then finally sighed and clicked on the TV, I can’t be the only one awake who isn’t watching it.

I didn’t get caught up like others. I didn’t cry. I don’t know them. I’m always happy to see people in love, but my interest wasn’t seated in their romance.

No, I was more aware of the tone of the ceremony. It was one of marked diversity and inclusion. It asked the world to move from lines to love. It was purposeful and resolute. There was deep symbolism and meaning. Every moment was perfectly orchestrated. I saw two people who not only love one another, but who also recognize they are offered a global platform.

They said the things they needed to say without saying a word.

I was coming off a bit of a the world is changing kind of high. I had just watched Prince Charles reach out to Meghan’s mother, escorting her away from the alter as they supported their children by witnessing their marriage. This man, who will become King, also honored their family by walking Meghan down the aisle toward his son.

In those moments they were simply parents. Nothing more. Nothing less.

These are the moments that make me believe in people again. That make me fully aware that there is more good than bad, more hope than fear, more love than hate.

Until a bunch of women began posting comparisons of Meghan, a woman who just did what would have been considered impossible even a decade ago, to both Kate and Diana. Her dress was torn apart, her hair discussed in great detail and concerns over her minimal makeup were shared. Shared so that other women would join the discussion in a group-hating circle that would then be made socially acceptable by their complicity. Especially when toxicity begins with a compliment, “Don’t get me wrong, she’s amazing, but…”

They call this the Oreo Effect. Start with the good, say something terrible, and end with the good, so that the person eating your particular trans fat (or what they call constructive criticism in Corporate America) feel better about something negative.

If you ever start a sentence, “Let me start by saying…” or “I don’t mean to be a bitch, but…” check yourself.

Women have been programmed to take each other out. We are asked to compete with one another for jobs, security, mates, survival. We compare ourselves and others to feel better about what we consider our own shortcomings. At some point in time we believed we were unworthy in all matter of ways. I could go on for at least three more paragraphs about misogyny, the patriarchy, advertising and social influence, but you get the picture. This unworthiness, this competition, has become a hum in our veins, a social and cultural bias that has been coded into our DNA, and we don’t even know when we are doing it.

Start recognizing when you are doing it. Consciously monitor your internal talk. Do you judge others? How does seeing another achieve make you feel? If you aren’t happy for them, why? If you have to find something wrong, why? Recognize you’ve been triggered, send them a blessing, good for them, and dig in to why you are having a hard time saying something kind. I guarantee it has to do with you, your internal talk, your insecurities, and what you subconsciously consider failure or unworthiness.

Check your influence. Do you feel the need to share your negative thoughts with others so they agree with you or find you flip or funny? To feel right in your opinions? Justified? That’s you, girl. You need their approval. Why? Unless you are truly trying to build a band of #meangirls to yes you to death and tell you you’re pretty, recognize that negativity begets negativity. You don’t need it and you don’t need to attract it. You want good people in your life? Be good people.

I have such hope for women. I know in my bones that the world I’m leaving my daughter will be so much better and because of women I personally know or am reading about in the news. Women who are alive during my child’s adolescence. Women who are using their voices, their influence and their intelligence to change conversations.

Women like Meghan Markle who just told the entire world that she is here to make change and has the Royals in tow.

She wasn’t wearing a wedding dress, loves.

It was a cape.